Self-Improvement

Not having a good emotional intelligence, can make us react in a visceral way and this affects how we perceive others.

I will define emotional Intelligence in my own words: "It is the ability to recognize your emotions, and recognize the emotions of others, and then channel them correctly."

I will quote Daniel Goleman who wrote that Emotional Intelligence is the ability to perceive, assimilate, understand and regulate one's own emotions and those of others, promoting emotional and intellectual growth. Daniel Goleman mentions that it serves the following: "Become aware of our emotions and understand the feelings of others." "Tolerate the pressures and frustrations we endure at work, at school, in the family and in general in any area of our lives."

The frustrations and the low tolerance to stressful situations, affects the perception that your companions have of you at work, or in the school, even in your most intimate and personal life. On the other hand, it accentuates our ability to work or study as a team and helps you to be well perceived in the environment.

At a social level, it helps you adopt an empathic, dynamic and social attitude that gives us greater possibilities of personal development.

I will mention five points to have a good Emotional Intelligence: this is always at the level of public image, only in this area of human development.

Emotional intelligence leaders recommend following certain steps in general.

First recommendation:

Learn to detect your emotions.

I recommend expanding your emotional vocabulary, giving your name and surname to what you are feeling. Yes, for example, at work your boss does not mention your collaboration in a project. Then your immediate response can be an unpleasant feeling that can be anger or fear.

The simple fact of recognizing the feeling you are experiencing makes you come to your senses and your brain will say: "Well, this is not a big deal and you will calm down.

Second recommendation:

Being a difficult person to insult.

The writer Miguel Ruiz in his book "The Four Agreements" says: "Do not take things personally." If, for example, you drive and commit an offence to another driver and this person insults you, it is best not to answer to it and continue.

Third Recommendation:

Learn to say no to yourself and others.

For example, you are on a diet and at the moment of eating you end up with dessert and more than what you had in mind. Then you feel remorse for not knowing how to say no. In a relationship there are things that you do not like to do, but you can not say no.

Another example would be in the labor area, when you start doing other people's jobs that do not correspond to you and the time will come when you will explode and there will be consequences that neither you nor the others will channel correctly.

Fourth Recommendation:

Learn to adapt and above all to be participatory.

There are people who when the program of work is altered during the day, get angry and have no tolerance to this type of change. For example, the person who does not participate in the office life is often rejected by the others. There is also the person who wants to be protagonist in everything, it is the classic person who interrupts all conversations, and his opinion is better even when he is not right.

Fifth recommendation:

Learn to know what your battles are and retire.

If you see a discussion between two people that does not belong to you, stay away.

In conclusion, it is important to understand how the public image affects us. Also, it is important to realize the importance of how the people perceive us and how we perceive others. If you pay attention to these recommendations, I am sure your relationships and how people see you, will help you to have a more balanced personal life, better self-confidence, a better response to frustration and stress. Enjoy in all aspects in general. For this and more, I assure you total success.