Parenthood

As I look at my life now, I can see a clear difference between life before and after children. But that difference has no any bitterness. This turn of fortune has given meaning to several aspects of my life.

My sleep, to name a big one! Before kids, I used to sleep the whole night.  I also had a chance to take afternoon naps while reading a book. At that time, I had no work except my study, and I could focus on several of my hobbies.

After having a child at home, I could never sleep at all, but it gives me a feeling of satisfaction of my child’s security.

Another big change having children has on a person and a marriage is lack of personal time. Before kids, I had enough time to read whatever I liked. I used to have quality time with my friends for hours and share lot of things.

After the kids were born, the personal time has changed, and now all my personal time means spending time with my kids, taking little trips, shopping, playing and of course taking care of them.

Also, before kids, I used to watch tons of television programs and night time shows at home with my sisters. Prior to having children, I had a chance to sit alone and to listen to music.

I would say my time is still busy, but my focus has of course shifted to my children’s welfare. My enjoyment now is to go to the playground with my kids and to giving them lot of happiness, buying new toys to give a smile and tasty food. This sort of entertainment provides me positive satisfaction.

Finally, when we have children, it affects most of our life’s corners. What I didn’t realize is that it also solves some of our problems and gives us a lot of satisfaction that I had never felt before.

In the end, after having children life becomes about living beyond yourself, about being bigger and better.